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When I hear stories about jobs being awarded without being posted it irritates me to no end. Your feeling of being demotivated is justified. When employers don’t give the opportunity for others to apply it not only disserves employees but also management. When a position opens, internal candidates have the opportunity to gain experience in interviewing and receive valuable feedback if they do not get the job. Of course it can be upsetting to not get the job, but they are given a reason as to why and what the other candidate was able to demonstrate to get the position. This valuable feedback can inspire an employee who strives for growth to take on more responsibility and opportunities to demonstrate leadership. When an employee is not given the chance, they are left demotivated and can start to become disconnected, spread negativity, and eventually leave.

The advice I have for you is to meet with your manager to express your interest in growth in the form of a promotion and what you can do to improve and be considered for the next promotion. Once you formally express your interest, it will be difficult for a manager to ignore your request. Let them know you are open to and want honest feedback. Check out the article titled “Negative Feedback and Your Identity: What if it’s true?” in the Wisdom section to help you prepare. Focus your energy on the meeting and improving your skills rather than harboring negative emotions which can be sensed by others.

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Try scheduling formal catch ups with your coworker like lunches once/week or more/less often depending on your availability. When he/she walks over to your desk next time, greet them and let them know that you have a big project with a strict deadline but that you can have lunch together to catch up. Hopefully that will send the message and stop the habit of them popping over and distracting you from getting your work done.